Surprise! He’s Unfaithful.

Posted on August 13th, 2009

Well where is the surprise. Of course he’s unfaithful.  How many women react to infidelity in the relationship by saying something like “I can’t believe it” or “I never thought he would cheat on me”.  Well why the surprise?  This is not a new fad, most people have been unfaithful at one time or another, and this especially applies to members of the male sex.  For various reasons most men are unable to comprehend, or just choose to disregard, the meaning of monogamy.

I have spent some time exploring the male perspective of relationships and infidelity and have come upon a few conclusions.  I have spoken with male friends in order to get a larger perspective on the situation and found these discussions to be quite enlightening.  I also read Steve Harvey’s book, “Act like a lady, Think like a man”.  While Mr. Harvey did have a few interesting points to share, the overall tone of the book was not my thing.  It came across as being a bit sexist, this is how we are and you can take it or leave it.  If anyone knows of other books like this one please let me know.

Anyway, Mr. Harvey posed the question “Why do men cheat?” and answered it with a resounding “because we can”.  My initial reaction at this point was unmentionable here, but after giving his words some thought I actually understood what he meant.  Sadly the realization hit me that it’s because women let them.  Not only do we let them but some women help them.  If a man is confident in the knowledge that there will be no repercussions to his being unfaithful, he will be unfaithful.

One male I spoke with was good enough to explain to me that for men, sex has nothing to do with emotion.  Just because a man is unfaithful, does not mean he does not love his wife/girlfriend/significant other.  There just is no connection between the two for them.  Another married “Man” expressed that for most men “Variety is the spice of life”.  I’m sure glad he’s not my hubby! Imagine having to live infidelity in your relationship.

The sad fact is that most men cheat.  If he’s unfaithful, don’t be too surprised.  But please be ready.  Make sure that there are repercussions.  There has got to be a high price to pay to make a man think twice.  Know in your mind and heart where you are willing to go with this.  Just remember, if it is too easy for him, chances are good that he will continue.

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  1. Sonia

    I think men are just snakes. Do your self a favor girlfriends and don’t trust any of them.

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