Relationship Problems

Common Relationship Problems and Solutions.

Most couples have or will experience relationship problems. They should be expected. Being prepared for them can make all the difference. Here are some of the more common relationship problems and solutions to resolve them.

Communication. As I have said before good communication between partners is a necessity. You must be able to discuss openly and honestly any situation that arises with your partner or spouse. If need be, set aside a specific time to discuss things when you can both avoid outside interference. If you need to talk about something that you are feeling emotionally, try to avoid using blame phrases. Saying things like “You always” or “You never” tends to cast blame on the other partner and this will result in a self-defense response. Instead, try phrasing your concerns in a way that reflect you. Use such phrases as “I feel” or “I think” instead. This emphasizes your feelings about something with out causing your partner to feel they are to blame.

Finances. Money is typically one of the most common relationship problems. Financial stress can become the root of many other problems in a relationship. The main requirement to solving money problems is communication. Set aside a time for you both to discuss finances. Be open and honest about your financial situation. Create a budget for the household expenses. Allocate each other some weekly spending money, and if you share joint bank accounts decide who will be responsible for paying the household bills.

Trust. In any relationship trust is a must if you want to succeed. Maybe your partner is exhibiting behavioral patterns that cause you to mistrust. Or maybe you have your own fears that cause a basic mistrust in your relationships. Whatever the cause you will have to communicate the problems to your partner. Again, please remember to avoid the blame phrases. Between you, trust must be developed over time. Never lie to your partner. Do the things you say you will do. Try to be reliable in your words and actions. These are the things that help trust to grow strong.

Infidelity. Although many things can cause the disintegration of a relationship, infidelity will do it quicker than most. There are some things we can control and some we can’t, but you can try to avoid this as much as possible. Try to keep a side of your relationship young. Maintain the date nights. Be attentive. Have fun together. These are all things that tend to wane after a few years of togetherness, and these are the exact things that helped your partner fall in love with you in the first place.

While no plan is fool proof, all things are surmountable. Relationships require a lot of effort and a tremendous amount of work to maintain. Keep your eye closely on the bigger picture and do your part to keep the relationship alive. Lead by example, your partner will be sure to follow and the two of you can build a relationship that can last a lifetime.

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